RELATIONSHIPS, TO VALUE OR NOT TO VALUE!

There should be a great concern that there is no real value placed on people or relationships nowadays. It seems that, for the most part, they are disposable, forgettable, and REPLACEABLE. Many of us are walking around damaged, fragile and mourning the deaths of others who were false in character as well as grieving over relationships that we were never truly in because it contained no real substance. Often times what happens is, at the first sign of what that other person feels is too much they decide to move on, most times in their head, without a notice because their heart was never truly there. It's the truth, not just in intimate relationships but friendships too. The real value of marriage, families and friendships has greatly diminished. Why are we so quick to give up on each other in order to gain immediate gratification? Social media poses as a great example of how one moment the best of friends can turn into foes all because one didn’t like the others post. Silly as it may sound many relationships have ended in a FACEBOOK post where the thread contains nothing more than gross disrespect and dishonor resulting in a meaningless show for the world to see.

Looking back and reflecting on the generations before us, whose actions and characteristics should have set the standard of today, how their relationships functioned and how they were carried out bought many thoughts to mind. What they had appeared to be built on something so genuine, full of certain characteristics that we’ve lost. During the days of old if you were a friend you were family, all the children were parented in the same way which meant EVERYBODY got the same butt whooping’s sometimes at the same time. Card parties, cook-outs, and fish frys brought every single family member and friend to the table which is how the majority of issues, if there were any, were dealt with too. There were no best friends or family members sleeping with each other’s man, woman or dog. Now on the other hand, Miss Hattie Mae, the clean up woman, down the way might have been stirring up that type of trouble or there was some gambling going on but for the most part that was about it. It’s sad to say we've lost that!

There should be great emphasis placed on building relationships as in the end it will be the thing that sustains us most but because it takes time, something people aren’t willing to give, it is not our focus. Most people feel that way partly because they feel that their time is a limited resource. That goes for us all in most cases. Regardless of any forced unattached emotions, relationships still matter. Please understand, there are times where you do have to simply break away from unhealthy people and relationships. Those are not the relationships that are encouraged here. On the other hand, be aware that not all people and relationships are replaceable such as mothers and fathers. Honestly, it doesn’t matter what the situation is, good or bad, when they are gone they can never be replaced. With respect to that thought, it is important to take a step back and look at others that come into our lives that may not be replaceable either. We may think they are by using someone else to comfort us the same ways in which they did in their absence but that's merely pacification. Ultimately we have to be smart in our selection of relationships, friendships, who stays or who goes in our lives and the value we place on such. We also have to determine whether they nourish and strengthen us or if we only experience depletion. Their value should increase value and vice versa so BE WISE and intentional about the people you are connected to. Move purposefully and pour into relationships that pour into you! Work on Winning…….IT’S MOVEMENT

KEEP GRINDIN, STAY FOCUSED AND ALWAYS….TEE IT UP!

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